After years of betrayal and heartbreak, I found myself standing at a crossroads longing to heal, but realizing I might have to do it without the person I loved. This post shares the moment I chose to move forward, trust God, and reclaim my future.

It’s completely hidden. You don’t think to pray about it because you don’t know it’s there. Others can see it, but they can’t say anything because being told you are in denial is perceived as offensive. I don’t think anyone would receive that well. If I had had awareness seven years ago when I sought healing from betrayal trauma, I would have asked God through prayer to walk me gently out of denial. You can’t heal what you don’t know.

After a painful season of divorce and spiritual seeking, I took a step of faith to move my family and rebuild our lives in a new place. This is the story of how God led us through grief, through growth, and into a community where we could finally thrive.

After years of confusion, emotional pain, and unanswered questions, I began confronting the strongholds that shaped my self-worth. This post shares a pivotal conversation, the truth it revealed, and how I started healing from the belief that I wasn’t enough.

After betrayal and fear shook the foundation of my marriage, I learned to set boundaries, trust God daily, and take one faithful step at a time. This post shares how I overcame fear and found peace through prayer, daily habits, and the courage to persevere.

After years of hidden betrayal in my marriage, I began to understand how discovery trauma had shaped my body, mind, and faith. This post shares what it looked like, how it felt, and the daily practices that help me heal.

After months of grieving and uncertainty, I stood at the edge of my past, holding a door open that needed to be closed. This post shares how I found the courage to let go, trust God, and move into the next season of healing.

I couldn’t see what was next. All I saw was fog and fear—until God revealed one small stone. This post is about how I learned to walk by faith, one step at a time, and trust Him with every unknown.

Emotional triggers can be overwhelming, especially after betrayal. In this blog post, I share five powerful ways I’ve learned to manage emotional triggers—including journaling, prayer, Scripture, and somatic grounding—so they no longer control my healing journey.

I hate the ebb and flow of grief I go through. To be married to someone for so long that doesn’t want you anymore is so freaking hard.

I was about to make dinner, and my kids were all around waiting to help. I opened my email real quick, and there it was. The judge had signed off on the divorce agreement. It felt so jarring.

Besides the complexity of grief, I am also feeling a profound surreal, "I can't believe this is happening" sensation. All of this feels like an out-of-body experience that I need to snap out of.

So let's talk routine and some common mistakes people make when they start one or start one over.

Now, as I sit and reflect on what felt like a year that would never end, I am at peace with all that I have gone through. I am moving in the direction of healing and forgiveness. I will allow God to use this experience to fill my mouth with a message of hope and healing to others. My experience is far from over, and I promise to be authentic each day with those put in my path.

Filing for divorce was an opportunity for him and me to admit we didn’t want this. I realize I was living in a different world than he was. My hope wasn’t matching the circumstances.

Life is never going to be what you want it to be, but instead, it is exactly what God wants it to be.

I really didn’t think it would end up like this. I think I’m still in shock as I sit here processing it. On the one hand, I feel empowered because I held my boundaries. On the other hand, it feels like the most terrible thing.

God is going to get your attention one way or another. He knows what you need in order to get it.

“Just like a tornado; it builds up, and when the atmosphere is just right, then it takes shape. It carves a path in the earth and doesn’t discriminate. Neither does betrayal trauma. It carves deep wounds that only take time to heal. The scars will always remain as a reminder of what happened. What you do with those scars matters most. Will you hold on to the trauma, or will you allow yourself to heal from it? Healing isn’t easy, and it does take time. Now I look back on that evening with a heavy sadness. No one ever knows when disaster will strike, and that’s the beauty of destruction. If you knew it was coming, you wouldn’t succumb to it in a way that you truly learn from it. Embrace it and grow from it. “